Making An Unforgettable First Impression

Posted on : 05-12-2009 | By : Cathy Svedka | In : Personal

Granted, internet dating does change the whole first impression scenario a bit; sometimes we’re going out on first dates with people who we’ve been communicating with for weeks or months or even years, in some cases.

Then again, many of us haven’t given up on encountering eligible singles in the real world as opposed to the internet dating world. Truthfully, most of us are doing both. And why not?! Let’s face it, we’re all busy and we all want to maximize our dating potential.

The variations in rules between the different arenas of romantic meetings can be a bit daunting. If you met person A in location B, is it okay to suggest activity C on the first date? Fortunately, some things stay universally true. At the top of this list? The ways in which you make an unforgettable first impression.

The tactics for making a good first impression have remained pretty much the same. It doesn’t matter if you met at a friend’s party, if you’re finally meeting in person with that cutie who has been emailing you online or if your eyes met over a business lunch.

1. Look ‘em in the eye and make it last

The best way to communicate your confidence, honest and more importantly your interest is by making direct and lasting eye contact with your new acquaintance. Locking looks works so much better than fleeting here and there glances.

Want to make a good impression but get bored of all that eye-time? Play little memory games with yourself; think about the exact color and shape of their eyes, as well as other qualities about their face. That way, you’re not only making yourself come off as interested and connective but you’re committing their face to your memory.

2. Let them have the control

So you’re chatting up some fabulous new person you just ran into and you’re having that old as the hills dilemma of wanting to seem interested without appearing over eager. What to do? Let them set the tone. Wait until they start talking and try to match their energy and excitement level. It’s a great way to make sure you’re not holding the conversation hostage and you can let go of worrying about seeming too detached or too worked up.

3. So close and yet so far

This one probably won’t work in a professional setting where a firm handshake at the start and finish of a meeting is all that’s really required. In a more personal setting you can get flirty with someone without actually touching them.

You’ll convey a sexually charged undertone by almost, but not quite, touching someone’s knee or shoulder. It’ll leave them wanting more! Women especially love the almost intimacy while appreciating the fact that you’re not being too forward physically.

This post was developed by the staff of the Datepad.com internet dating company where you can find hundreds more helpful dating posts.

Have You Hear Of The 100% Totally Free Online Dating Service

Posted on : 05-12-2009 | By : Jason Watts | In : Personal

If you need a date tonight look no further than the 100% totally free online dating service. They are all over the internet these days. They beat the old fashioned way I remember the dating services in the newspaper. Way back when the newspapers had dating classified ads. People looking to meet others for fun and romance would run an ad in the newspaper.

Where I lived the city’s largest newspaper started with one or two pages of personal ads. It grew in about a year to seven or eight pages of people listing their availability. The personal ads listed the basics and what that person enjoys doing; long walks on the beach and all that. It was like online ads now except with no photos, only print descriptions.

It was free to run an ad. But you had to pay to call an ad and leave a message. It was a 900 telephone system so the longer your message the more you had to pay on your telephone bill.

You would read an ad that caught your fancy and then call the 900 number listed by the newspaper and then punch in the number of the ad that you read about to hear a message from the person who took out the ad. Then you had the chance to leave your message and your telephone number and wait for the person to call you back. I got wise to the system pretty quickly.

I came up with a standard message for each ad I would respond to. I would call up and say basically I was looking for a girl who enjoyed being spoiled. This worked well as most of the girls I left a message for would call me back. It was the part of me spoiling them that got their interest. You see people do not want to hear what you want they want know what you will give them. It is the basic what is in it for me game.

The message worked because I played to why people placed an ad in the first place. People rarely run ads wanting to give they want to get. And the girls I met believe me sure wanted something from me and it cost me a lot of money to give it to them. That is one reason I do not play the game anymore. When you deal with people through dating services you find people who want to take not want to give. For the most part that is. I do not want to paint with a broad brush. But after all it was my own fault I told them in my message I wanted to spoil them.

It probably did not hurt that I was a lawyer either; women somehow equate lawyers with lots of money although I never made lots of money as a lawyer. But the reason they called back was because they liked the part about being spoiled. You see women do not want to know what guys want.

Women want to hear you are willing to spoil them. I have my reasons why I do not want to run with the online dating scene even just because there is a 100% totally free online dating service. I would play it the same way I did before though back in the dark ages when newspaper dating was all the rage. I would let the girls hear what they want to hear. Let them know what you are willing to do for them. That is the only time they hear you.

Are you hoping to locate free online dating? At times these sites say they are free free, but simply are not. But now you can locate 100% totally free online dating service that is available to you. Head over to them and see if you don’t get the best match today!

Little Things Men Do That Seriously Up Their Attraction

Posted on : 05-12-2009 | By : Shelly Davidson | In : Personal

The Wink

My feelings about The Wink used to be very conflicted. It was kind of cheesy and was used by too many men who thought they were suave and dashing, but weren’t. I thought that way only because I had never seen The Wink done right. Seriously!

I’m a believer now. The first time a hot man flashed me the perfect effortless wink and half-smile combination, it was like a fierce punch in the sex drive. The sad truth is, not many men can work a wink and not come off as silly, but when they can, oh boy. Game over.

Get Rid Of The Dirt

Women aren’t asking men to be the picture of perfect grooming every second of the day. However, knowing that you need to clean up for work and family functions, and knowing how, should be required training before men can date. Having said that, we also love you when you’re rugged, sweaty and manly! And much of the difference depends on the occasion.

And contrary to what you may believe, you don’t have to look like a Greek God either. We don’t want you to hold us to model standards, so we won’t do that to you. Fair is fair. However, personal hygiene counts for a lot. Major turnoffs include a forest of nose and/or ear hair, and dirty fingernails.

The Nose Knows

I detest a man (or a woman for that matter) who drenches himself in cologne. Having said that, a man with a subtle but definite “man” smell is very appealing. I prefer a guy who relies on his own man scent, but there’s nothing wrong with choosing a deodorant that smells great or one, count ‘em one, spritz of a sexy cologne.

Laughing loud, often and with meaning

Men who are so concerned with looking cool that they can’t appreciate a good belly laugh when the opportunity comes up are just, um, lame. Laughter is infectious and when a lady is hanging around a guy who lets the giggles rip at will, she is more likely to laugh along with him.

We all know that laughing goes hand in hand with feeling good thanks to all those happy chemicals that are released when we laugh. Women will make an intuitive connection between that happy feel good feeling and the guy that provoked all that laughter.

Keeping It Cool

While, as previously mentioned, we ladies don’t dig on a perpetually serious fellow, we also can’t stand a guy who loses it all the time. Yes, we all have our share of life stresses that come up and there is always a temptation to freak out but a man’s ability to not do that is a very sexy thing. Going nuts over trivial issues indicates serious immaturity and we’re looking for a boyfriend, not a child.

This article was developed by the staff of the Datepad.com internet dating company where you can find hundreds of helpful dating articles.

When Is It Cheating?

Posted on : 29-11-2009 | By : Astrid Engels | In : Personal

Back in the “good” old days, infidelity used to be a pretty easy-to-define beast: if your significant other gets all makey outy with someone else, from just kissing to all-out bedroom romps, it’s cheating. Then we came to the self-aware part of relationship history, where couples starting paying more attention to where they were placing their emotions.

As a result, it also came to be that engaging in a strong emotional or romantic exchange with someone outside of your relationship also constituted cheating. Okay, that’s a little less black and white but we can still work with that. It’s easy enough to understand.

In the “good old” days it was also much easier to know when a partner was straying. Working late, missed phone calls, getting caught in lies, sneaking away to make a phone call; classic signs all. There is something to be said for the days when it was easy to spot a straying partner and follow it up with a good slap in the face!

Now, with technological advances like text messaging, social networks, internet dating sites and email, it’s harder than it used to be to determine with whom, and how, your partner may be “talking” to someone else.

Checking cell phone logs and sneaking peaks athis or her inbox is always an option, but it’s not exactly indicative of trust now is it? It’s hard not to speculate though what with all the new ways of communicating not to mention engaging in cyber relationships.

What’s more, if you do find out that the person you’re seeing is texting someone else all the time, or exchanging flirty (or worse) e-mails, where is the line of what’s acceptable anymore? Things are all in such a gray area where this is concerned, that it’s feasible for you to call out your lover on these indiscretions and have them actually argue that they aren’t doing anything wrong.

Talk about it

Get used to it; Facebook and MySpace exist, so do other social networks. And that cell phone in your sweethearts purse is not going anywhere. The methods by which people ccommunicate may have changed, but one relationship basic hasn’t and that is trust.

If your trust is tested and you start worrying about the kinds of communication your other half is having, you’re going to have to do something that is going to be a bit stressful. You’re going to have to talk to your partner about what constitutes cheating.

The answer to that is different for every couple. I can’t even give you my opinion because it changes from relationship to relationship. The only thing you definitely have to do is be real about what makes you uncomfortable and set the parameters for the two of you specifically.

Meanwhile, try to spend more energy focusing on making your life with your sweetie the best it can possibly be. Keep each other interested and intrigued and the possibility of straying will be severely decreased.

This article was written by the staff of the Datepad.com internet dating company where you can read thousands more helpful dating articles.

When Being Independent Goes Wrong

Posted on : 28-11-2009 | By : Astrid Engels | In : Personal

I’m a huge fan of independence and standing up for what you this is best for you. Making decisions about your life based on what you think is best and not always giving in to your partner is the way to go. Having said that, when you enter a serious relationship, or even marriage, the decisions you make will now have an effect on the other person’s life as well.

Discussing these things with your partner before diving in (or cutting loose, or going crazy, or whatever it is you’re about to do) doesn’t make you weak and co-dependent; it makes you a smart, considerate person who is concerned about the health of their relationship, rather than being completely self-serving.

Here are a few things you should definitely consult your sweetie about before going forward with:

Contraception

Yes, it’s your body, but before you make a decision that will affect your ability to conceive, you should definitely discuss it with your partner. Whether it’s starting or stopping contraception or choosing a more permanent solution like tubal ligation, your partner will has a vested interest that you need to respect.

Throwing out leftovers

Why anyone would want to eat three days old Chinese takeout is a mystery, but apparently some do. Guaranteed that the minute you throw it out, they’ll want it. The moral here; if it’s not yours ask the owner before throwing it in the garbage.

Key purchases

Even the Rockefellers and the Hiltons know that it’s just a smart relationship move to discuss buying big ticket items like cars, boats or houses with your sweetie. Unless it’s an anniversary surprise, in which case no discussion is required!

Adopting an animal or a child

As tempting as that puppy with the heart breaking little face may be (I know, so cute!), resist the temptation. Just because you’re volunteering at a refugee camp while your sweetie is filming a movie and there’s an orphan there that melts your heart, it’s just not okay to bring home new family members without getting your partner’s blessing first.

A tattoo

With their name on it. Enough said.

Deleting the Tivo recordings

So you think he or she has watched the latest installment of Curb Your Enthusiasm? But you don’t know this for a fact? Don’t wipe out the Tivo because you’ll be on the fast track to WWIII before you can say Larry David.

This post was written by the staff of the Datepad.com internet dating company where you can find hundreds of professional dating posts.

Finding A Russian Bride Who Wants A Western Man

Posted on : 26-11-2009 | By : Mark De Schutter | In : Personal

Many western men are searching for females that are not from here. They want to find Russian brides looking for western men. It’s just a choice that they feel is something that will make them happier. And there are many Russian women who would love to meet a western man.

Taking into account that you want to base your search for only Russian Women, that’s what you need to place in your search. Now when you’ve pulled up some sites, look to see if any testimonials are offered. Showing the fact that someone from that site has met a western man.

It’s hard at times to tell who is real and who is only running a scam. But there are sites that you can tell are running a business that is legitimate. Stick to those sites only when you’ve begun your looking. Avoid others that you may find women on who are only interested in getting money from you.

So instead of looking at this as your trying to find a Russian woman, you should just look at it as your trying to find a bride. Someone who you can love and be loved by, and grow old with. If you want kids than that will happen too. But don’t just focus on the fact that you want only a Russian woman.

Find out all the things that you two may have in common. Not just the fact that you could possibly be searching for each other. But learn more about this woman and what they have to offer you, and what you can also offer them. Don’t just pick a person because she looks good.

Eventually the money may come up when you’ve both discovered your true feelings for one another. But at first that should be avoided. If they ask you for money right away, you may want to just stop talking to them and move on to the next choice. You will save yourself a lot of time and money by doing that.

I know I said it wasn’t to be based on beauty, but you have to still have an attraction to the way this women looks. So get an up to date picture, and by all means use current ones for yourself too. Nothing is worse than being lulled by a picture that isn’t current.

Though there are many women out there who really do want to be with a western man, make sure your choice is being truthful. Don’t accept everything at face value right away; there are women out there that are only interested in money. And that will go for all women in all areas of the world, not just Russian women.

Ensure the site that you begin your search for a Russian bride on is one that has a good name. Check out the women who you are talking to, and never send money right away.

Mark De Schutter is the webmaster of a Russian dating site called “Russian Dating Live”. This is an internet dating service for men who wish to get in contact with Russian ladies who are interested about marriage to Western men.

The Costs of Online Dating

Posted on : 26-11-2009 | By : Jayde Johannsen | In : Personal

With millions of people dating online, finding a potential mate has never been easier. The Internet and online dating sites give you direct access to a treasure trove of partners. Back in the olden days (think’95), your options were generally limited to people you were in contact with on a daily basis: classmates from high school or college, a coworker in the next cubicle, or maybe someone you kept an eye on in the local coffee shop. Today, however, for just a small charge every month, you can communicate with people all over the world.

These dating services vary in price. Many don’t cost a thing, or have a free month long period for you to try the site and figure out whether it’s worth it for you. In most cases, unpaid sites don’t have the same kind of functionality in comparison with paid sites. For example, you shouldn’t expect to be able to search through interests or hobbies. More likely, you’ll have to sift through hundreds of profiles sorted only by location, age, and sex. That can add a lot of time to your hunt.

Paid sites, on the other hand, will let you search across a wide range of criteria. This can be very effective for finding a mate that shares similar interests and hobbies. In small markets where there aren’t many people, this isn’t much of an issue; you can just individually search through each profile, noting potential matches. If you live in a huge metropolis like London or Sydney, however, this becomes much more difficult, with thousands of people on each dating site.

Another cost that most people don’t think about? You’ll likely be going on a lot more dates! This could prove doubly expensive for men, if they go the traditional route and pick up the whole tab. This is one reason (with safety being the other primary) why it’s important to spend some time getting to know someone online before taking the relationship offline. And who wants to sit through a long meal with someone they’re obviously not compatible with anyway?

Sites that cater towards specific nationalities or religions are also often more expensive, for the simple reason that they can be. Dating sites aimed at the broader public face more competition, so their prices, in turn, must be more competitive. On the other hand, religion based sites like JDate.com (aimed towards Jewish singles) have a huge market share, and can price their services more or less at will. That translates to higher costs for the consumer.

Another detail to keep at the top of your brain: signing up take a minute, but you can spend months paying a fee without even realizing it. When you sign up for a site, mark it down somewhere, so that you can evaluate after a certain period of time to decide whether you’re actually getting your money’s worth.

Online dating sites can be a great and inexpensive way to meet the love of your life, but you have to exercise some caution when choosing a venue. Do the proper research, and you’ll be just fine.

Jayde Johannsen give plenty of great reviews when it comes to Australian dating sites. She also realises how uncommon totally free personals are.

Why Join The Gym

Posted on : 18-11-2009 | By : Jennifer Coleman | In : Personal

Many people give a big idea of joining a gym. Most of them do not have extra time or budget for additional expenses such as membership fee. There are also people who are keeping their personal health and exercise on a regular basis, so they are not considering a gym.

However, if you believe you can’t keep a good exercise routine and diet for yourself, it highly commended that you join a gym. Below are some reasons you can regard when deciding to join a gym.

1. In gym, you will encounter people like you who wish to change their lifestyle. They also have same goals as you like losing or gaining weight and building muscles. Having people with common goals around you will keep you motivated in achieving your own goals, so you will do your exercise on a regular basis.

2. You can access the required equipments for your workout in gym. If you are exercising at home, your equipment is limited. Thus, the type of workout you can execute is also limited. It will cost you a great deal of money if you tend to buy all equipments required for your workout. In gym, there are already available equipments like free weights, cables, machines, etc. that you can utilise.

3. In gym, there are professional people like personal trainers available if you want to ask questions about the right way of exercising. You can also ask them how to use the equipments properly.

4. You can find new workouts by seeing other people exercising. By watching these people, you can learn tips on how to do the routine the right way. You can also see if it is doable by you or better not try it.

5. Going to a gym can get you develop a routine. When you go to a gym, it is definitely you execute your workout routine. Unlike when you are at home, you can do other things instead of exercising.

6. You can focus on your workout in gym. When you are at home, there are other things to manage. If somebody is visiting, you will respond it instantly. Then, if you have kids, its very difficult to concentrate on your exercise if you have to look for them.

Find a gym where you can change your health and physical fitness.

Finding A Russian Woman For A Relationship

Posted on : 18-11-2009 | By : Mark De Schutter | In : Personal

Do you hope to build a successful relationship with a Russian woman? If so your among a growing crowd of men who are seeking out this type of relationship. Just remember that there are some things you need to think of as you try and build this relationship.

Never think that they should ask you for money, it’s simply not something that should be done. Even if they need to pay to sign onto the internet. If they really are looking for a relationship they will find ways to pay. No matter how much money they make, they have been brought up in their culture to save money and live by little means.

The same thing should be said about any requests that are made to help pay for a visa or a plane ticket. These are some of the most requested ways of getting money from a western man, but a scam too. If you have known them for a long time, you can always buy the ticket in her name, or send the exact amount for the visa.

Plus it’s a great way to make sure that your talking to the same person. If something doesn’t seem quite right never hesitate to ask questions. Plus you should try and open up and be honest with each other and learn as much about the other as you can.

Never agree to send them money for a plane ticket or visa. If they really need a plan ticket you should buy it for them. With a visa or anything else check to see what the cost is, and only send them that amount. But you should only do this after you’ve known them for a while.

It takes time to get to know a person online, and you shouldn’t make it happen too quickly. Never real comfortable if after only a few emails back and forth they are saying they love you. Sorry but this isn’t a fantasy world and in most cases that will only be a ploy.

Watch and really read their emails that they send you. Especially if they’ve requested money and you’ve refused to send it. If you see a person who gets irate and upset due to that they are probably only trying to scam you out of money.

Also while you’re in that area you should meet friends and family of the person. Seeing how they are can help you to understand how your bride may react in certain situations. Go with what you feel in your heart; if you’re unsure of something don’t go along with it.

You can find a real Russian woman who wants to have a western man has her mate. Just follow these tips before you settle on one.

Mark De Schutter is the owner of a Russian dating service called “Russian Dating Live”. This is an internet dating service for men who would like to get in contact with Russian women who are interested about marriage to foreign men.

First Contact With A Russian Woman Online

Posted on : 17-11-2009 | By : Mark De Schutter | In : Personal

What do you do during that first contact with a Russian woman online? Well you certainly will need to make sure that you’re on a site that has a good reputation. One where they have screened those women who have come onto the site to ensure they are real women.

First off you have to remember that many average guys out there are with beautiful women. So don’t look down on yourself, it’s more about how you are inside, than what you look like. And when you’re looking for a woman, Russian or other, that’s the way you need to think of it too.

Take an approach that is completely honest; don’t hide things like you might be losing your hair. Or anything else that you may feel would make you less appealing. If you find a woman who really loves you, those things will not matter and you can be happy together.

With getting involved with a person online, you should be careful every step of the way. It’s a lot harder to know when someone is telling you the truth. That is why it’s so important to make sure you’re using a site that has a good reputation. One that can prove they have matched up other people previously.

Don’t forget that you should also see what year the picture they have posted is from. It’s not hard to post on an older picture, unless they are stopped by an agency who knows better. See if the picture is current, and get to know this person before you decide to continue the relationship.

Caution would be a word to the wise when you head out looking for anyone to marry. You need to know what type of person they are, not just what they look like. So really get down to good conversations, as well as you can with translations and all.

Be wise to the fact that if she can’t talk to you but at only certain times that you may have a problem. But again if you stick with a site that has a good reputation you can usually avoid anything like this happening.

It’s easy to misunderstand what you’re feeling as love, and give out too much information, or even send money. But you need to remember that once you’ve gotten your Russian woman over here, you can spend money on her than. But before that keep information to yourself.

Always make sure that you follow the rule of being honest with the person you’re talking too. You are expecting them to be truthful with you, so it’s only right. If you’ve sent an old picture because you’re now bald, well be honest up front. Because you could be setting up a bad scene when you finally meet each other if you’re not.

If you want to meet that Russian woman online, just be sure that you take your time and get to know them.

Mark De Schutter is the owner of a Russian dating site called “Russian Dating Live”. This is an international dating service for men who wish to get in contact with Russian ladies who are interested about marriage to Western men.